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The 10 Harmful Traits of a Narcissist and How They Affect Your Mental Health

Mar 11, 2025
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Learn the 10 harmful traits of a narcissist and how they impact mental health. Spot the red flags, take our quiz, and find support at Axis Integrated Mental Health. Start your healing today.

What Are the Harmful Traits of a Narcissist?

Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is more than just self-absorption. It’s a diagnosable mental health condition listed in the DSM-5 under Cluster B personality disorders. Individuals with NPD often exhibit a pattern of grandiosity, a need for admiration, and a lack of empathy. Understanding these traits isn’t just helpful for identifying narcissistic behavior—it’s critical for protecting your own mental health.

These traits are not just personality quirks. They can lead to chronic emotional damage for those around the narcissist, contributing to depression, anxiety, PTSD, and long-term relationship distress. If you’ve ever found yourself emotionally drained, confused, or walking on eggshells around someone, learning about these traits can help you make sense of your experience.

The 10 Harmful Traits of a Narcissist (With Real-Life Impact)

1. Grandiose Sense of Self-Importance

The cornerstone of narcissism. Narcissists exaggerate achievements, lie about credentials, and minimize others' accomplishments. This constant self-elevation makes it hard to trust them and harder to feel validated in their presence.

2. Fantasies of Unlimited Success

Narcissists often indulge in unrealistic dreams of power, beauty, love, or genius. These fantasies distort their expectations and relationships. They may drag others into these delusions, causing tension when reality fails to align.

3. Belief in Being “Special”

They view themselves as elite and only worthy of association with high-status people. This leads to condescension and rejection of those they perceive as ordinary. They may force themselves into spaces or relationships for social clout.

4. Requires Excessive Admiration

Narcissists are addicted to praise. Any criticism, even constructive, is perceived as a threat. Loved ones may feel like they must constantly appease them to avoid conflict.

5. Sense of Entitlement

They expect special treatment without earning it—priority in lines, praise without merit, or leniency when they cross boundaries. Their outrage when denied something they feel entitled to can lead to verbal or emotional abuse.

6. Exploits Others for Personal Gain

People are tools to narcissists. They manipulate, guilt, or deceive to get what they want. This leads to feelings of betrayal and long-term mistrust among friends, family, and coworkers.

7. Lack of Emotional Empathy

Narcissists are often capable of understanding thoughts (cognitive empathy), but not feelings. A study using the Multifaceted Empathy Test confirmed that they struggle to emotionally connect, leaving loved ones feeling invisible and isolated.

8. Envious or Believes Others Envy Them

They are either jealous of others’ success or convinced everyone is jealous of them. This causes them to sabotage others or react with hostility to perceived threats.

9. Arrogant or Haughty Behavior

Narcissists often put others down to maintain a façade of superiority. This leads to toxic competition, belittling comments, and power plays in social or professional settings.

10. Interpersonal Dysfunction

Relationships with narcissists often follow a cycle: idealization, devaluation, and discard. They may also exhibit abusive behavior, cause financial issues, or use sex to control. One study cited four common harms: abuse, financial damage, sexual manipulation, and emotional whiplash.

Emotional Empathy vs Cognitive Empathy: Why Narcissists Feel Cold, Not Confused

Narcissists may appear emotionally intelligent, but studies show their empathy is imbalanced. While they can recognize what others are thinking (cognitive empathy), they fail to genuinely connect or care (emotional empathy). This gap creates relationships that feel performative or manipulative, not emotionally nourishing.

Red Flags: How to Tell If You’re Dealing With a Narcissist

 

  • Do they minimize your accomplishments?
  • Do you feel emotionally drained after interactions?
  • Are they hypersensitive to feedback?
  • Do they expect constant praise?
  • Do they use others for personal gain?

Take the Quiz: Are They a Narcissist?

Suspect someone in your life might be a narcissist? Our short quiz isn’t diagnostic, but it can help you recognize unhealthy patterns. [Take the quiz now.]

What Narcissistic Abuse Does to Your Mental Health

Living with or loving a narcissist can have long-lasting effects:

  • Major depressive disorder
  • Persistent anxiety
  • PTSD or complex PTSD
  • Identity confusion
  • Burnout

These effects aren’t imaginary. They’re documented in clinical literature and often mimic trauma responses.

What To Do If You're Impacted by a Narcissist

Set Boundaries: Clearly define what behaviors you won’t tolerate and enforce consequences.

Practice Self-Care: Reconnect with activities and people that bring joy and stability.

Seek Support: Talk to friends, family, or a therapist who understands narcissistic abu

se.

Avoid Power Struggles: Narcissists thrive on control. Stay calm, grounded, and disengage when necessary.

Practice Assertiveness: Use clear, confident communication to protect your needs.

Consider Professional Help: Therapy, especially with clinicians familiar with narcissistic abuse, can help you rebuild self-trust and resilience.

Resources for Narcissistic Abuse Recovery

  • National Domestic Violence Hotline – 1-800-799-SAFE | www.thehotline.org
  • Psychology Today Therapist Finderwww.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists
  • Support Groups for Adult Children of Narcissists – Reddit, Facebook, local groups
  • Anxiety and Depression Association of America (ADAA)www.adaa.org
  • Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Programs – e.g., NARP or other evidence-based communities

Axis Can Help You Heal

At Axis Integrated Mental Health, we offer therapy and support for individuals affected by narcissistic abuse. You don’t have to navigate this alone. Our compassionate team is here to help you reclaim your life and rebuild healthy connections.

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